A Fall from Grace

How something is label or titled - the words used, has a lot to do with the energy or spell(ing).

A Fall from Grace.

I'm not sure if that's what attracted me to this film on Netflix, a Tyler Perry film, but throughout viewing all types of themes that arose inspired me to write.

Let's start with what Grace means

Grace: Noun - smoothness and elegance of movement. "she moved through the water with effortless grace" tactfulness, diplomacy, etiquette

Verb - bring honour or credit to (someone or something) by one's attendance or participation. "he is one of the best players ever to have graced the game"

I include the Noun and Verb because I want to introduce the idea of when something/ one is fixed and when something/ one is fluid.

I am Black and Wo(mb)man unapologetically. And so the conversation around gender and sex and who gets to call themselves what has been something that has been calling for me to #speakout on.

There is nuances around how culture has embedded religious ideologies intertwined into it, and this being a Tyler Perry i.e. Christian film and the current conversation around 'Competitive Rights' - it made me question identity.

Who truly influences how we feel about ourselves?

Who gets to name?

Can we ever break free of how we've been conditioned?

And now with the understanding of Grace being more than just a name of a woman, a verb of honour and a noun of a state of being - how feminine (graceful) is it to kill?

We meet Grace by name, energy and definition. And her fall is her imprisonment for killing her husband. We are then transported through Grace's trial.

How could this Graceful elegant, christian, middle-aged woman be capable of murdering a man?

Trans. port.

Trans. fer.

Trans. Atlantic

Trans. Race

Trans. Gender.

Trans. Sexual.

Trans. Human.

What does it all mean? And are those that classify themselves as the namers leading us to confusion?

The root of the word "trans" means across or through.

It should not be owned by any particular group. Trans is a verb - a doing word, and is not a state.

Sex however...

Sex - either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions.


Man [ ] Wo(mb)man O

Gender - either of the two sexes (male and female), especially when considered with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones. The term is also used more broadly to denote a range of identities that do not correspond to established ideas of male and female.


Masculine ___________________Somewhere in-between________________________ Feminine

And in fact as I scroll through social media and listen to news, I see groups of people that have been labelled by an oppressive force go to war competing for the right to call themselves...what they have been labelled to call themselves.


Make it make sense.

And whilst Gender like Trans is a fluid verb, we must not get lost in the aGender driven confusion that mixes in Nouns, States and ORGANS.

My question to myself as I watched A fall from Grace is - what fell?






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The Grace of a Wo(mb)man?

Or the trans.formation of feminine into masculine?

The flip of the script in the film, encompasses a true fall from Grace. Trans.ported through the womb, dishonour is an energy captured in the basement.


Growing up in the 90s I owned the title Tom Boy. I had a skateboard.

I hate it now because who is Tom (the name suggests a race)? And the boy further mistakes sex for gender. Tom Boy = White Male.

Where I'm at now is girls, boys, white, black should all learn how to skate... should they wish. And skating doesn't have anything to do with who I want to sex!

On reflection, there were a lot of us who are now identified as the millennial generation. Our sex was woman but our culture of Jamaican aunts that ploughed away at allotments and male cooks - influenced our gender. And this was fluid!

And so the ideas of a woman not being capable of jealousy, anger, revenge, war, murder - is a misunderstanding of a woman as human.

I can wear my Hat 2 DA BACK and still AM my Wo(mb)man SEXy because femininity is flexible.

Hat 2 da back.


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Interwoven into the gender bias is racism. Meaning the darker you are the more masculine you are received. I have found this model of ignorance so damaging - especially to heterosexual Black relationships, as there is a misunderstanding of the function of Gender vs Sex endorsed by white supremacist rhetoric.

And whilst we should take responsibility for who we are attracted to, like in A Fall from Grace we often come to relationships from a state of trauma - which I argue supersedes even this life but is influenced by some of the oppressions from our grand parents.

To date women are given harsher sentences than men.

To date Black people are given harsher sentences than Whites.

So if you are Black and Woman.... Shit!





"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference".

Watch on Netflix!

A Fall from Grace cleverly explored social norms of women and subtly unpacked the capabilities that lie in all humans. Although there were conventions attached to characters this was smartly thought about in the unravelling of the narrative.

This was a Tyler Perry film that had a majority Black cast. The White characters that were in the film did a good job at showing how they see us but did not overtly lag on this, giving focus to the actual story. Arguably, the story happened the way it did because of white supremacy. Economics has disabled the Black community leading to our own Fall from Grace.

Starring Phylicia Rashad

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